Sharing What I Love | Belle Mocha-The Ultimate Blog for Black Women

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I love sharing things I love with you all in hopes that it may help with an issue, improve your life and that ultimately, you’ll love it too!

This post, I want to share a blog that has really altered my beauty insight truly inside out–bellemocha.com.

Belle Mocha, which was previously called relaxedhairhealth.blogspot.com, is chock full of the most amazing beauty, fitness, financial and hair information beautifully curated and set in one spot by founder/creator Nadege who also happens to run her business Beautifully Bamboo via the site.

If it wasn’t for this site, I probably wouldn’t be so into skincare now as I was a year ago. Her post on the Korean skincare regimen is how I delved into K-beauty and never looked back. Belle Mocha started as a relaxed hair health hub for women wanting to grow long healthy relaxed hair and has morphed into a wonderful lunch time read. I happily visit at least three times a week because she also keeps the site constantly updated with new posts. Winning!

Now that I’m adulting more, her clear concise articles on Mondays– “Motivation Mondays”–really speaks to the new generation financially. Accompanied by pin pointed strategies on how to get money to work for you, how to be productive and how to be the person you envy on Instagram, her posts will not fail to motivate you. I even purchased a few audiobooks she has recommended.

May I mention her site is completely about the all-empowered amazingly beautiful black woman. How could I forget!?

From style to femininity to diet and inspiration, how-tos and ingenius solutions, welcome to your new source for the best you.

You’re welcome.

xo

C Marie

Inspired.

Aruba Inspo

I have an impending Girl’s Trip coming up late spring/early summer and I’m super duper excited! And guess where we’re going…

ARUBA!

How exotical (made that word up)! In my excitement, I just had to show what’s been inspiring me in anticipation for sun, sand and waves!

Dresses, rompers and carefree garments in

vivid bold colors

and patterns.

Highlights that beam,

fresh skin , toasty tans

and toned bods.

Boho hair,

on point nails in the hottest hues

and being draped in accessories and adornments.

And just plain good ol’ fun, food

  and tons of confidence!

These pictures are giving me ALL my life and I cannot wait to fulfill a few of them. Girls trip, get ready.

xo

C Marie

Counting My Blessings For the Last Time in 2015

Counting My Blessings For the Last Time in 2015

What did I accomplish this year?

New Year’s Eve is generally a day of reflection and future goal planning. A day where we recognize our accomplishments, learn from mistakes then move accordingly for self-betterment.

I like to take this day to sit with my journal and a smooth pen and begin to count my blessings then plan goals. But since it’s year’s end, I’ll do the top ten things I’m grateful for this year, read them aloud and say thank you three times after each. It’s always extremely important in order to be blessed, happy and remain positive to understand and truly be grateful for what you have, what you’ve done and where you are in life. Always find the good in all situations no matter how far off track you think you may be because it could always be worse.

So I invite you this day to Count Your Blessings with me for the last time in 2015. Write ten things you’re grateful for this year and why. Afterwards, reread them out loud and say thank you three times, feeling as much gratitude as you can emit with each thank you. Radiate in the feeling of being blessed and continue until the list is done.

Top Ten Things I’m Grateful for in 2015

  1. First and foremost, I am so thankful for my health because there are so many that did not make it to see this day. I have all my breath, I have all my limbs and I have no illness to weigh me down.
  2. I am truly blessed for my healthy pregnancy because there are many women who have troubled pregnancies or miscarriages, difficulties and constant sickness and I’m just so thankful to have had a very smooth healthy pregnancy and a smooth vaginal delivery.
  3. I am so grateful for my son, Avery, because he’s taught me a lot about being responsible and being less selfish which in turn, makes me a better person. I prioritize better and he’s one of my best friends. His little smile lights up my world especially when I put my face to his and he just grabs it with both hands and coos. My heart melts.
  4. I am so truly grateful for my partner, Courtney, because he is truly my balancer. He is the opposite of me and through that, he has brought so many changes to my world. He also is the biggest supporter of my dreams and encourager. If it weren’t for him, I wouldn’t even have this blog.
  5. I am so blessed for my family because they are my rocks. I know I can always count on anyone of them to help me through any situation I’m going through or to just be my clubbing buddies or to throw me amazing baby showers or…I just…love each one of my family members and Courtney’s family too. Family is life.
  6. I am so happy and blessed for the amount of growth I’ve experienced with my YouTube channel because its been a little over a year and I’m approaching 4,000 subscribers! Four thousand people are interested in my content and its just such a wonderful feeling to finally be doing something I’ve always wanted to do since 2008. It’s even cooler because I can officially call myself a producer. What I’ve always wanted.
  7. I am so thankful for any income I’ve obtained this year because I do not have a 9 to 5 consistent job so unemployment and freelancing has provided so much when it came time to prepare for baby and creating a warm home and helping out with groceries and laundry. I’m so grateful for every dollar received.
  8. I am grateful for finally finishing my Associates degree because it’s been YEARS and I finally finished my two-year degree. It’s so easy to fall off track but the impending birth of my son was the push I needed to finally complete the first steps in my education and I cannot wait to continue onto my Bachelor’s.
  9. I am so thankful for my home because I was able to create a place that Avery could feel warmth in. It was truly a makeover that took months but this temporary setup is comfortable for all of us and to know I achieved it with a few dollars every week is so satisfying.
  10. I am truly blessed and happy that I have a positive mindset because there are so many things that could make me down, upset, cynical but my faith in the universe, belief of gratitude and allowing my dreams to never drown will ALWAYS get me to my goals. I never doubt for one moment I won’t achieve my goals because anything I wanted–needed–I obtained. I am so thankful to the practice of gratitude. It genuinely saved my soul.

Prepare for your next step which is writing out those resolutions which are more important than people think. Stay tuned and Happy New Year, loves!

xo, C Marie

Counting My Blessings For the Last Time in 2015

#ScorpioSeason|10 Things I Love About Being a Scorpio

#ScorpioSeason|10 Things I Love About Being a Scorpio

#ScorpioSeason is upon us. That lovely space between October 23rd to November 21st where the most interesting, brilliantly witty, emotionally inept creatures are born and I just happen to be one of them. Born November 5th, I’m well into the characteristically charged Scorpio sign.

Words used most often to describe include:

  • Passionate
  • Loyal
  • Ambitious
  • Focused
  • Jealous
  • Manipulative
  • Crazy (in the best possible way though)

We make amazing detectives due to our highly observant and unyielding motivation to find the truth. Wonderful parents due to our sensitivity and empathy, able to hone in on any emotions and heal with compassion. The best leaders due to our management and planning skills. It’s impossible for us to follow due to our dislike for authoritative figures. Why follow when you can make your own rules? Actually, DailyMail UK wrote an article that Scorpios dominate world leadership positions, with over 22 heads of government being led by the stinging sign. Damn!

The coolest of the cool are Scorpios such as Katy Perry, Drake, Leonardo DiCaprio, Sean “P. Diddy” Combs, Hillary Clinton and Bill Gates!

The pride I have for my sign is unwavering and I just have to share, no, scream from the roof tops, what’s so awesome about me, I mean, us!

1. Strength that allows us to fall off the horse 7 times but ride 8.

We don’t know what failure is because we never stop striving. God, I love that about me. I refuse to stop until I make it and yes, we end up banged up and bruised because of it but our egos deflate knowing we gave up, relinquished power or caved to pressure. It’s all about succeeding because it’s inherently within us.

2. We know what the hell isn’t for us and stick to it.

Although we aim to achieve, we know what isn’t for us. Unknown exotic fare for dinner, ugh, no thanks, I want the regular. Teal shirt? I’ll stick to burgundy. An opportunity that just doesn’t make sense to you so you choose to pass. People may think you’re a slacker, lazy, short-sighted–but the thing is, we know our lane and we usually stay in it. We’re perfectly within our rights to do so.

3. We’re magnets–to oddjobs.

If you take a look at a Scorpios friends, you’ll see a perfect reflection of them and you’ll wonder: What the hell? Scorpios always seem to host the oddest set of friends. You know why? Because they’re weird too! In High School, I was so lucky to have friends from every “clique” but I mainly rolled with the artists and misfits. People your parents wouldn’t be too fond of but you love them because they complement you. Scorpios aren’t picky, they just wanna have fun.

4. Mmmm, Oh My God, Stop F**king Talking.

Communicative creatures AF! We ask questions (unless we don’t care). Many questions and have statements. Many statements. We ask to learn. We gossip. We intrude. We vocalize. We give great speeches and deliver intelligent conversation. Hey, look at this blog. I had to create it because people were sick of hearing me talk. I’m pretty sure Scorpios just love the sound of their usually monotone voice.

5. We find solace in quiet.

Just as much as we gab, we shut down just as fast. Most Scorpios are introverts by nature. I literally become exhausted after a day at work not physically but from carrying so many small conversations all day long. By lunchtime, you can find me hiding in my rent-a-van or even a bathroom stall to escape inclusion. Mornings when everyone hasn’t yet risen or night when all’s asleep. A bowl of popcorn and a remote. A park stroll alone with my headphones in. These are a few of my favorite things.

6. We’re spiritual zealots.

You know, I haven’t met a Scorpio that didn’t have a passionate belief in something. I intensely believe in a higher being, in the universe and in good energy. Many Scorpios have the profession of church leaders. Pastors, deacons, priests. Why? Because when we believe in something, we love it and when we love it, it must be shared because deep down, we just want to help. And being feverish over what brings us solitude is just normal. How can I know God is good and not spread the word or know the Law of Attraction and teach you how to utilize it? As a Scorpio, it’s our job to force our beliefs down your throat! We need an army–to lead, of course.

7. Is this organic?

We tend to care about our body, our temple and feed it well. Most Scorpio women I know enjoy feeding their temples wholesomeness even if its just one green smoothie a day, an errant kale and avocado salad for lunch or having a meatless Monday every so often. We read labels and puree babies food. We enjoy strolls at the green market and planting and harvesting herbs from our windowsill. We enjoy purity and knowing we may live until 112 by incorporating these habits into our lifestyle.

8. Damn, I’m the sh!t!

Most Scorpios you know you either love or hate due to their aura. Love them because of their cool confidence or hate because of their tacky arrogance. We can’t help but think we’re all that and a bag of chips. We own any room we walk in. We slay outfits most think twice before trying on. We make parties come alive and its all in the way we carry ourselves. We aren’t really afraid of being goofy and in that we lose a lot of insecurities. We never try too hard because we don’t have to. We’re the bomb.com.life.gov. The absolute worst part is, we know it!

9. I may as well be Miss Cleo.

Our intuitiveness is unmatched by any other sign. We have the uncanny sense of just–knowing. Scorpio instincts are one of our finest traits. I sense sincerity, fakeness, weakness, deception, flirtiness all in an instant. We usually can sense ones intentions within 2 minutes of a conversation. This is wonderful for weeding out good cookies and bad brownies but because of our run ins with bad brownies, our guards are up to shield us from hurt. Sucks for the good cookies but we need to prepare ourselves for the worst. We have no time for anyone who isn’t real. I really love this trait.

10. Family. Family will always come first.

Scorpio loyalty. Ain’t nothing like it. This sign is who you call true “ride or dies”. They ain’t going nowhere if they’re down for you. Even worse if you’re connected by blood. Family is top priority for Scorpios because family, when all is said and done, will be there when the dust settles. Scorpios are sometimes ungrateful to this fact but never not recognizes the depth of love they have for mom, dad, brother, sister, nieces, uncles and cousins. I believe because family is our first and deepest memory that we just have that attachment to them. Our first loves: our parents. Our first friends: cousins. Its all inherent in us to roll deep and hard with family through the good and bad. They are our happy spot, unless they ate all the Crunch N’ Munch you were saving for later, then it’s time to kill. Hurt. Ok, ok, scold. Harshly.

Ok Scorpios, as you may know, this is just the tip of the iceberg. There’s an endless list as to why we’re magically delicious but I’ll stop here. And for all those non Scorpios, know that we’re not jealous psychos or sexually charged nymphomaniacs but deep souls with a mildly addictive personality. Love us or hate us, our time is now so have a seat.

Live long and prosper my Scorpio brethren.

#ScorpioSeason|10 Things I Love About Being a Scorpio

xo C Marie

 

 

Count Your Blessings: New Mom Edition

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If I would’ve changed anything, it could’ve changed everything.

On August 27th, 2015, we welcomed our healthy baby boy Avery into the world. He was 6 pounds 9 ounces and 19 inches long. Though I experienced no heartburn, he had a head full of dark, downy soft hair. Alert as ever within his first hour of life, our eyes met. He had Courtney’s round inquisitive eyes and definitely had my nose. I couldn’t believe he was here or even real.

It’s been a little while since I’ve written blessings with being so wrapped up in mommy duties and all but I couldn’t think of a better time to sneak in some gratitude to share with you all.


Count Your Blessings

  1. I am truly blessed to have my new baby boy, Avery because I know he’ll be the motivation I’ve been lacking in my life to be greater. Before he was even born, he motivated me to finally finish my Associate’s degree and I’m just ready to set an example for him just like his dad.
  1. I am so happy and grateful for my partner (its weird to say boyfriend because he’s more but we’re not married), Courtney, because he was super hepful during the labor. From contraction walks to being my squeeze toy, feeding me and being so loving and protective, I’m really blessed to have such patient and enduring boyfriend in my life.
  1. I am truly grateful for epidurals because Lord, after 24 hours of labor, I was just too tired to withstand anymore painfully close contractions. It took away my pain within 10 minutes and I caught some much needed sleep and it even helped move me along to 10 centimeters dilated!
  1. With all my heart, thank you for Jamaica Hospital because the care and attention which the midwives showed me and them being patient and rooting for me to have my vaginal birth, skin to skin contact, and breastfeeding was just such a relief from what I usually hear hospitals doing. They also provided up with a wonderful going away bag stuffed with things for baby.
  1. I am so thankful for not tearing during birth because it allowed me to heal faster so I’m able to take care of my home and baby.
  1. Thank you so much for a safe vaginal birth because a Cesarean would’ve been my worst nightmare. Having a major surgery is nothing to be taken lightly and I’m just so thankful to push my baby out as naturally as possible.
  1. I am truly blessed for breastfeeding because from the moment Avery was born, he had an excellent suck reflex and I had producing milk before he was even born so I’m just so thankful we have no problems in that arena. Breast is best. Plus it shrunk my uterus and water weight really quickly!
  1. Thank you so much for my family because seeing all these loving faces surrounds me is just so heartwarming. From Courtney’s family to my family, I’m very grateful Avery has such a great base for love.
  1. I am so grateful for sleep because I really took my freedom to sleep for granted and the chances I do get to catch 3-4 hours here and there are golden and precious.
  1. Thank you for takeout because sometimes I have to choose between sleep or eating and cooking is impossible, even making a sandwich is hard so ordering some food or grabbing some takeout is the ultimate lifesaver.

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Avery.

My pumpkin is just a joy and I swear he looks like me but he for sure has Courtney’s eyes.

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My labor and delivery was a kind of a funny story and my partner and I just so happened to document and film that day.

Watch Our Funny Labor and Delivery Story!

Woo hoo! Imma mom!

Take Care,

C Marie

Blessings Come In Different Packages

I am elated to share with you that my sweetheart and I are expecting–

Blessings Come In Different Packages

A BABY BOY!

My Little Pumpkin is in there cooking away.

Blessings Come In Many Packages

His little wiggles make my heart melt.

Seeing his little body curled up in there makes me smile from ear to ear.

Blessings Come In Many Packages

I’m due August 22 (give or take a week or two). I’m currently a little over 5 months.

I’m happy the cat is finally out the bag! Now that I know the sex, planning can begin!

Blessings Come In Many Packages

I felt beautiful and all the congratulations as I went out after the doctor’s appointment just made my heart grow.

Thought I’d do a little fashion post.

Dress: Boohoo

Denim Jacket: American Eagle

Belt: Forever 21

Moccasins: Minnetonka

Blessings Come In Many Packages

We love you little baby boy and we cannot wait to shower you in kisses, love and joy.

Photos By Alexander

The Magic Challenge | Day 2

MAGIC PRACTICE NUMBER 2

  1. Count your Blessings.

  1. I am truly blessed to have a car because it is such a convenience to have transportation to go anywhere and carry things like grocery and my family.

  1. I am so happy and grateful for hot water because the most soothing and relaxing thing after a long/or cold day is the luxury of readied hot water. What a privilege.
  1. I am truly grateful for my sisters, Thacia, Genie and Tracy because throughout my life, I have been able to turn to these women and seek help through advice, shelter and just a helping hand. They do not yet know the impact they’ve had in my growth.
  1. With all my heart, thank you for my unemployment insurance because I needed security with my income and this money is so helpful to stay afloat until I begin working again.
  1. I am so thankful for my eyes because the ability to see all the beauty and colors of the world is a luxury not given to all and my eyes work just fine.
  1. Thank you so much for my legs because they are strong and carry me far and wide.
  1. I am truly blessed for all my clothing because I have options and choices to display my style and they’re clean clothing at that.
  1. Thank you so much for my phone because I’m able to keep in contact with people, what’s going on in the world and watch information.
  1. I am so grateful for my toothbrush because it keeps my breath fresh and my teeth clean. It’s a small commodity that if went missing, you’d pray to have back.
  1. With all my heart, thank you for my Mac because through hard and consistent work, I received a large check and used it to invest in my future. I do not regret a day I bought this laptop because I started my YouTube channel with it and now, I can continually edit my blog.

2. Find and put the magic rock by your bedside and right before going to sleep (not bed but sleep) think of the best thing that happened today and say thank you.

These two practices will be your starter and finisher everyday for the remainder of the challenge while a new practice is introduced everyday.

The Magic Challenge | Day 2This is the stone I’m using. Its a crystal my boyfriend bought me while at the Museum of Science. It was a necklace but the chain broke…*sideeye* but it means something to me and it’s beautiful.

Tonight, before bed, I will take account of all the wonderful things that happened to me today and for the rest of the challenge, pick the best thing and say the magic words, thank you, for it.

–C Marie